With the announcement of Pat’s death on August 24, 2012, memories flowed forth from several classmates. Here’s what they had to say.
Pat came to Punahou from Haunahauoli School, just down Nehoa Street. Given the school’s small size (one class of about twenty per grade), it’s not surprising that many of these early classmates had the closest memories of her. Gigi Dennis Ewing was one of them:
I have known Patty since I was four years old and we were in kindergarten together. There was only one class per grade at Haunahauoli so, throughout the years, you got to know everyone. My favorite memory of her was at my 11th birthday party where all the girls came to my house for a “dress up” party. She really enjoyed dressing up in tulle and satin and wearing a crown. I have a picture of us all, dressed to the nines. There were smiles all around. At the end of the year the whole class came out to our beach house for a day-long party. Then we went on to Punahou together. Patty and I had a different circle of friends, but I know that she was a sweet, happy woman who truly enjoyed her family. She loved being a mother and found joy in those around her. My strongest feeling of Patty is how caring she was.
Lynn Tanoue was another Hanahauoli classmate:
I came to Hanahauoli as a new 4th grader, which was pretty unusual. What I remember about Patty is that she was very gentle and had the sweetest smile, and that she was very kind to me as a newcomer. As an adult, I have realized that girls that age can be pretty tough on each other, but Patty is a wonderful example of someone who even as a child showed goodness of heart, and was willing to share that goodness with others.
But new friends were to be found at Punahou and Haven Young Rafto was among them:
I am so saddened to hear of one of my best friends, Pat, passing. I entered Punahou in 10th grade, anticipating a challenging and exciting academic career. My worry was that I would not have any friends since I knew a lot of the kids there already had made their circle of friends during the elementary and middle school years. As luck would have it, my homeroom was in Alexander Hall, the same as Pat’s. She took me under her wings and through her met more of our great classmates. Our friendship has lasted through the years, college, marriage, kids. Pat never forgot her Hawaii roots and passed on her love of all things Hawaii to her husband Rich, and daughter, Christina. Aloha Pat, you will be missed by many.
Yuriko Wellington had a more recent memory to offer:
I am devastated to hear of the loss of our classmate Pat Frazier. We just saw Pat and her husband Rich at a mini-reunion in Sacramento in April. Pat was one of those folks whom it was easy to remember from our days around the Lily Pond, we shared number of classes over the years, including band/orchestra and P.E. At the reunion, we pored over old yearbooks and reminisced about those times.
Sheree Lum Orsi was also at the Sacramento reunion:
I am just devastated to learn of Pat’s passing. We reconnected when Yuri Wellington convinced me to have a mini reunion at my house a few years ago and I had the pleasure of reconnecting with Pat. Though we did not get together again as we had hoped, we kept in touch through facebook. I didn’t really know her well at Punahou but I found her to be warm and loving with a big heart. My thoughts and prayers go out to her and her family.
The Sacramento reunion was but one of the many that Pat attended: she was at every one of them but our 30th. I recently found out that her cancer treatment was what kept her away in 2004.
Haven Young Rafto traveled from Honolulu to Fair Oaks, California to attend Pat’s funeral on August 30, 2012. Joining her at the service were Richard and Sharon Botkin, Yuriko Wellington, and Sheree Lum Orsi. Wrote Haven:
The church was overflowing with friends and families. It was standing room only with family from both California and Hawaii. I brought lei for Richard (Pat’s husband) and Christina (Pat’s daughter) and pink plumeria for display. Pat chose songs for the service that the church choir performed as she sang with the church choir. Friends came from work and her various interest groups. Rich and Christina still love Hawaii and Pat’s Punahou family and would love to come to our next reunion.
Prayers to Pat and we all look forward to seeing her again for that great Punahou74 reunion in the sky many many many years from now.